I get a little soft seeing all the happy family holiday pictures. I mean, it always looks like people are so happy together, I see lots of food and gifts. Pretty decorations. And I really am happy for people.
But I’m a cynic (?) about the holidays….and I never feel quite at ease with it all. Maybe it’s the hype. Once something reaches a certain popularity, I recoil from it, so something less mainstream could work better. Maybe.
We used to do Christmas like nobody’s business. When I say “we” I mean when I was with my parents growing up. My mom decorated every picture frame and for knob, we had the little German angel choirs (we had 3 or 4 different groups), had a ritual for how to decorate the tree, and all the cards we received were strung up for view and decoration along some banister or shelf edge. In all honesty, it was quite beautiful and festive. There was just one Santa on a doorknob hanger, so that probably helped avoid a kitschy look of a 1000 Santas. We had several crèche sets too. There were cookie baking days and also a festive Christmas Eve meal, plus the day meal. Lots of candles and an advent wreath and Christmas table cloths made you realize we were doing a German theme.
One year, as we had to sing holiday songs, I remember I was forced to play piano. I didn’t like playing on command, even though I really like how pianos sound. I never was amazing, but I was able to play. It was a bit traumatic.
So when, and if, I do any holiday or Christmas things, its super low key. There’s a beautiful wood angel candle holder I keep out all year. There’s a cute, small Mexican porcelain creche I sometimes take out. I play the Yule Log channel in the TV, which is good goofy fun and can be cozy. One year since I had my son I had a tree. We strung popcorn and that was fun. I do a few cards or gifts to close friends or people far away.
This year in Germany I’m doing it…and I’m OK. I make conscious decisions and there is some pressure, and it wasn’t too crazy, especially since Christmas is overall more mellow here, by design. The society consciously keep things tempered. Keeps stores from being open 24/7, that kind of thing.
But I always feel a bit like, “hey loosen up! It’s just a day! Play along and just do the superficial thing! It’s fun, really! ….you’ll see!” And I do, I have, and probably will continue to try to get in the mood of it all. Some years more than others. I’ve just never been good at going along with things I didn’t buy into.
I’m more of a New Year’s celebrator. That is a much clearer objective! New beginnings. Transition from one year to the next. Leave the old stuff behind. Reflect on the positive events.